Here’s a peek to my foreplay repertoire

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Foreplay can be as much as pleasurable as the sexual act itself. Besides being a trigger to sex — as it increases the sexual tension -, foreplay warms up the bodies and connects the minds. Consequently, it improves the quality (and even duration) of the orgasms.

This 2017 study concluded that “women were more likely to orgasm if their last sexual encounter included deep kissing, manual genital stimulation, and/or oral sex in addition to vaginal intercourse”.

Besides the physical pleasure, foreplay it’s an excellent way for you to let go of your thoughts and worries; it helps you to be…

My alphabet of fantasies and kinky pleasures

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Since I discovered and embraced my true sexual self, I’ve been exploring my sexuality in a completely different way.

Before, I was a vanilla woman. My sex life was good. Yet, it was incomplete. There was an intensity I wanted to feel, but I wasn’t sure how I’d get it. I knew there were more sensations to explore.

The hunger that remained after sex (and often, during), wasn’t supposed to happen.

When I started dating Mr P., I finally discovered what I was missing all those years: I’m a kinkster. I’ve always been; I just didn’t know. That’s why I…

My first time rimming someone was spectacular

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I’m a pleaser in bed; seeing my lover contorting in pleasure is one of the best stimuli I have. So, I always aim to give him the type of pleasure he loves the most. Perhaps this is one reason I never thought twice about giving Mr P. anilingus (commonly known as rimming.)

Before him, I’ve never done it to anyone; he was the first man I ever had anal play with. I won’t waste my time overthinking why I never explored this type of pleasure before. But really, why not!?

When we started having sex, I knew Mr P. was…

On what determines good sex vs bad sex

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The definition of what constitutes “good sex” varies from person to person, but I’m sure there are things many of us agree to make all the difference when having sex.

For me, good sex goes beyond sex positions or the duration of the act, although those things are important.

I love to vary sex positions, so if I’d have to have sex always in the same — even if in one of my favourites — I wouldn't be happy. The same goes if sex always lasted a couple of minutes or went on as a marathon. …

I’m using them myself and the results have been spectacular.

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I consider myself to be a sexually empowered woman, but it wasn’t always the case, much the opposite.

Apart from two dry spells I had in different phases of my life, I was always sexually active. But when I ask myself if the sex I had was always the one I desired, the answer is a clear no.

I’m a genuine case of a person who, for years, sabotaged her sexual happiness.

There are several reasons why this happened, being the main ones I wasn’t able to ask for what I wanted, and I didn’t know what I truly desired…

You can’t have a fulfilled sex life if you lie about your pleasure.

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I never faked an orgasm. Not with my partner, my ex-husband; not in casual fucks, with boyfriends or friends with benefits. It never made sense to lie about it.

For me, faking orgasms is to reduce sex to the climax point.

Of course, orgasms matter and for sure I “chase” them, but they’re not my main goal — pleasure and fun are. And if I’m having sex with someone I love, the connection it promotes it’s also a big part of my overall sexual satisfaction.

I’ve had sex where I had intense orgasms, but the sex wasn’t as pleasurable and…

I had an incredible introduction to the swingers lifestyle

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Last December I made a sex wishlist for the new year, and one item was to go to a swingers’ club. Not necessarily to have sex, but, as a starter, to feel the dynamics, to see how people interact and, of course, to access how I’d feel and go from there.

A couple of weeks ago, my partner, Mr P., and I booked a kinky event — our first one together and my first one ever. I was thrilled it was finally happening. Last weekend, we went to a fetish market.

This was perfect for me; it was a very…

I embodied a character and the roleplaying fuck was unforgettable

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Roleplaying has been on my sex wishlist for a while. It took me a long time to do it, mostly because I wanted to feel confident about it.

For the last year, I’ve been experimenting with my sex life in a way I could never do. You see, I was as vanilla as one can be in her sexuality. Although I had cravings I didn’t understand, I never had the courage to question them and even less to pursuit them.

It was when I started dating my partner (Mr P.) that I found out my true sexual self: I’m a…

I lost too much time depriving myself of sexual pleasures. That ends now.

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Last year, I made serious decisions about my sex life. The overall goal was to take it to its full potential — not only seeking orgasmic pleasures but also exploring everything that’s “out there”. But for that to happen, I’d have to reach several milestones.

After started dating Mr P. last year, I began my sexual revolution. To be fair to myself, it started way before, but it was with him I discovered my true sexual self: I’m a kinkster.

Since my revelation, I was introduced to Power play, I’ve created BDSM scenes (both as submissive and Dominator), I had…

5 ways how porn improved my sex life

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Porn is a topic that divides opinions. There are those who claim it does more harm than good to your sex life and to your relationship, and those who, like me, love it and use it often and for several purposes.

I agree with the sex therapist Janet Brito who defends:

Porn is neither good nor bad. However, if it’s causing emotional distress for you or your relationship, interfering with your daily functioning, then it is a good idea to examine your relationship to porn and what function it serves for you.

It’s what you do with porn and how…

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